Today I have been thinking about what it means to be a victim. Often we tell ourselves that we can't do things. For example, "I can't go shopping because it is nap time", or "I have to go to work tomorrow because I am scheduled." We feel helpless because we have removed ourselves and our agency from the equation.
If we instead recognize that choosing to stay home so that our kid takes a nap and does not make us cranky all afternoon, IS a choice. If we work tomorrow it is because we set our alarm, woke and went to work. In fact, we could call in sick and stay home in bed all day! Choices.
Even inactivity is a choice.
So today I decided to be the master of my destiny!
I Chose so many things!
I chose to be mad at my husband when he sat in the Lazy Boy playing the 360 while I cleaned the car, did the dishes, gave baths, washed and folded 5 loads of laundry, put those clothes away and washed the car seat covers.
I chose to help put my kids to bed and work out at 9:30pm instead of at 7pm.
I chose to get my eyebrows waxed so I could confidently have conversations with others without fear of reproach.
I chose to drink Dr. Pepper today! I missed the yummy taste of the delicious liquid goodness. So refreshing! Thus welcoming my long lost friend home, dispensing with it's 2 week banishment.
I chose not to throw myself on the floor and cry like a baby when I arrived at the gym and discovered I had forgotten my pink goggles and swim cap.
I chose to buy the needed items from Fry's at 11pm, despite my desperate desire to go home.
I chose to be annoyed at Fry's for shutting down their registers and making me do self check out. I got to ring up and check out all of my lovely groceries by myself.
I chose to call and give my husband a piece of my mind during my drive to the gym.
Most importantly, I chose to forgive that husband for his male frailties, and thus ended a successful and productive day on a positive note.
Perhaps tomorrow I will make more sparkly and exciting choices. I may choose to not notice some of the obnoxious or mundane aspects of existence. I will be a little more forgiving, slower to anger, perhaps drink less Dr. Pepper.
Today, however, I will just enjoy the fact that I recognize that I made ALL of these lovely choices!
The End! :)
4 months ago
.JPG)
16 comments:
Very nice, very nice. That was a good way to start my day. I was just sitting here thinking, "well I could study for my test, I could surf the web, I could fold the laundry, or I could take a shower." None of the sounded very appealing to me but now I can think of everything I do as MY choice. Thanks Wendy!
There is a choice to gain additional levels in Call of Duty. It is not to be taken without care... you must choose to dedicate time and effort.
You cannot make choices without making sacrifice.
Bubba will have a smaller gamer score than Grizzley. That is a choice as well.
Totally great...like right now, choosing to avoid a shower. Instead, reading blogs and eating a package of Ritz. I enjoy this choice. :)
I guess, I can come to grips with the fact that I choose to feel cooped up in the house while i have no car instead of taking a walk with scarlett. But, if only she hadnt gone totally crazy on me during walks in the past, i might feel braver.
love you sister. Great post.
Love your blogs, Wendy! You are a great writer. How lucky are we to have such talented writers in the family. We can go from one blog to the other and read universally well written blogs. Love it! Cute family, too. Unfortunately for my calling, I keep choosing to read blogs rather than click onto the family history sites and figure out what the heck I'm doing or supposed to do. Next time you'll probably need to post a blog about consequences! Maybe then I'll be motivated to make a different choice.
I love that we have choices, I love that if I decide to do absolutely nothing all day, my hubby will come home from work and still be madly in love with me. I am lucky.....thanks for a great post.
You've nailed it on the head, haven't you, Wendy? We've got choices, don't we? And sometimes, doggone it, I don't make the right one. But still...I CHOSE it! Thanks for putting things into perspective.
Well put. It's weird, I haven't really thought about the things I do like that before. I'm not sure if that is good or bad. That probably makes me a victim. HAHA!
Very funny love it!
And why did I name your blog Stephanie's blog on my blog?? My sister's name is Wendy! Anyhoo...had to lock my blog down cuz of some strange comments, so please email me your info so I can include you. Send to...cactuskaylorx6@hotmail.com Great post too...totally random like most days in my life.
Really? You're back to the DP? :( Great post...way to keep it all in perspective.
ps...that was me, Dixie, not Allyson. I'm just using her computer..oops. :)
I love your post on choices. It is SO TRUE! I chose to stay home from school today because I was so dang tired and ticked off at my insomnia. Then I chose to spend this day on FB and blogs. And I LOVE MY CHOICE!! I'm sad you went back to DP...I thought for sure you were going to use your "drying up" period to help you overcome that crazy hurdle you "chose" to become addicted to! :) lol j/k I'm going to choose to go to the gym tonight even though I stayed home sick and tired...here's to us and our choices!
At least he was playing XBox and not watching porn.
Choose to count your blessings.
Such a great post. I know it was several days ago and I've already heard it, but it has stuck with me and I appreciate the reminder. Really well written and you express yourself with such kindness always. (No comment, Brian) Thanks!! I'm reminding myself how grateful I am that I CAN make choices.
Glad B told me about your blog. Your boys are adorable. I wish I had as many 'choices' as you do!
Aunt N
Post a Comment